As some of you know I have been in the PAP main offices for the last couple days in Irvine, California. It has been a very busy couple days planning not only for CAP Euro initiatives, but also long term objectives as well. There are two distinct things I have witnessed:

1. People in Southern California have no idea what cold weather is. While the local news showcased people in winter coats complaining about the weather, I slept with the windows open and woke up to a refreshing 52 degree morning. Before I left Chicago it was -16 degrees with the windchill.

2. Working in an actual office for an “internet company” is not like corporate America. One of my buddies Tim owns FatWallet.com, and I thought they were the only internet company that rolled the way they do, not so. The CAP/PAP/AP offices in Irvine, CA all have dual 19″ monitors on every desk, and plasma tv’s in front of all the desks in the offices.  Not to mention a stocked fridge and food cabinet with anything you want. The best part is that everyone in the office has fun and loves coming to work. I have toured several affiliate related offices in the past, and none can compete with what we have here. Bottom line, Warren knows how to run a business and I am going to love every month I get to travel to So. Cal.

3. Greg Powell and his wife Tandra - Wow, my first night here I think I imposed on a birthday party for a bulldog at his house. No shit, the dog had a birthday hat, a decorated cookie, and some cupcakes. Apparently moving from the Midwest to Southern Cal makes you a bit gay.  At least his wife is super hot, so that makes up for him going quasi gay here in the OC.  Way to represent the Midwest GP.

On a serious note though, I can’t wait to get to London tomorrow. Although this will be one of my most important conferences yet in regards to meetings (Some of you know how much I love the “formal meetings”), I can’t wait to get together and hang out with all the PAP affiliates. There are only a few times a year I actually get to see my “internet friends” who I chat with on skype and in the forums all the time.  This is truly the best part of these events for me outside of business.

As much as a plane ride from Cali to London sucks, it will all be worth it once I get there. For those of you going who want to hook up with the PAP group, my cell phone while there is 714-421-8957. Just give me a call and I will let you know where our group is at. The more PAP members we can get together the better.

See you in London!

Today I am flying to California for meetings and strategy planning at the PAP main office prior to CAP Euro. Luckily for me, the circle of friends I associate myself with outside of affiliate marketing are also very successful individuals. My best friend Karl Ericksen is no stranger to success, or this blog as he has written a previous motivational message about making it happen.

I can relate to a great deal of this post. Over the past year I have made huge moves and big decisions. Having confidence in everything I do has attributed to much of my success. Great article Karl.

Confidence, A 3 Pronged Approach by Karl Ericksen

One of the most important things I have learned over the past 6 months is the importance of “Confidence” in your mind, your manifestation, and your words. Without this key component to our everyday being, we lack one of the most important leverages in the business world today. Lacking this component causes us to 2nd guess our decisions, or even present ourselves unprofessionally. However, too much confidence can lead to arrogance, and poor decision making in everyday business. With that said, it is up to each and every individual to find that balance by testing their confidence and how others around you react to it.

Simply watch 1 Episode of American Idol and you can seriously see the balance that is needed for confidence. Those who dress like characters and can’t sing for sh!t or those who possess too much confidence, to the point where it impairs their practical judgment (I look great, and I can SING!). Those who walk into the room, acknowledge the judges, belt out a tune, in tune, and then celebrate in a frenzy are the ones who possess the proper balance of confidence. Their uncontrolled celebration is simply their personal reward for being so focused over the past x months of preparation. Confidence must be balanced throughout 3 important aspects of your life: Mind, Appearance, and Communication.

The mind is a terrible thing to waste…especially with too much confidence. Allowing our mind to believe or perceive we really are something we are not can lead to dangerous results. Don’t allow yourself to believe you are 21 years old and single, when in fact you are 30 or 40 and married. Be confident and proud of the fact that you are 30 or 40 and married. Tell yourself and remind yourself of your excellence each and every day. Starting the day with a positive thought lays the tracks for the rest. These positive thoughts become contagious and help blend the recipe for your day to come. Don’t allow negativity into your mental vocabulary. Your business does not have time for this distraction. Above all, a confidently balanced mind, will automatically lead to confidence in the following 2 areas.

Your appearance is a direct reflection of who you are and how you would like to be perceived. Head down while walking or talking, slouched shoulders, loose eye contact or looking downward during conversation are all signs of weakness and a lack of confidence. Your appearance is public information to your opponents in the business world. When they see you for the first time, your appearance is telling them what you are and are not. Those who know how to read these traits will assign appropriate weaknesses to you due to your lack of confidence, and will eat you alive. Key components here are stand proud and tall, shoulders back, and chest out.

Walk with a purpose and direction every time. Eyes forward at all times, as if you are reading the future. Proper hygiene and a certain sense of style will finish this attribute off. If there is someone you look up to in the business world and you know they posses the proper balance of confidence, study their appearance, it will tell you a lot.

Communication has to be one of the most important aspects for many of you reading this blog, as emails, IM’s etc. are a dominant part of your business day I have to believe. With that said, the words you choose to type or speak dictate who you are and what you want to be. The other day I was typing a report to summarize my trip. I reviewed the previous trips notes 1st, and noticed a lot “if’”, “when”, and “maybe”.

When I was typing out my recent action items, I caught myself typing with confidence. Instead of saying, “Follow up with customer on large quote”, I typed, “Review quote w/ customer and get order”. Each and every word and letter we convey is a direct reflection of who we are and how we feel. Be sure the recipient of these words and letters understands who you are and where you are coming from, while not exuding over confidence. Use phrases that are matter of fact, yet somewhat future predicting with success in mind.

As many of you know I really can’t be too serious in this blog on Fridays. For the love of God, I work over 60 hours during the week. Come Friday afternoon I just want to surf porn and play online poker get everything sewn up so I can enjoy the weekend away from the computer.

If you are female please see the red X in the upper right hand corner and click immediately. This post is all in fun and not meant to be offensive, although there’s a good chance it will be. Seriously, if you get offended easily click the X.

Below I have listed 10 surefire ways to piss your wife off leading into the weekend. These are not just the simple, go out and get drunk with buddies, or watch sports all night kinds of things. These are well thought out JE originals. Enjoy, and feel free to digg this or pass it on

Top 10 Ways To Piss Off Your Wife Going Into The Weekend (in no specific order)

1. Good Wifes Guide - This is an oldie but a goodie. Hang The Good Wifes Guide on the refrigerator and highlight some of the things she could work on next week. Maybe even add some of your own notes….

2. Performance Review -If this does not work, get on MS Word and make an “end of week spousal performance review form“. Ask her to rate herself in several different areas. Be sure to remind her though that performance reviews are simply tools to increase her productivity.

3. Romance - Send her a romantic email, then at some point on Friday night, say “Oh sweetie, I forgot I sent you a really nice email today”. (Obviously she’ll rush to the computer to check this.) Before telling her however, go to the computer she will use and leave two levels of the task bar “accidentally” minimized with porn fetish sites.

4. Lottery Winner (A Jeremy Enke Favorite) - Buy a Mega Millions lottery ticket on Friday afternoon. (Drawing is always Friday night) Be sure to tell her you were feeling lucky and show her the ticket when you get home from work on Friday….then forget about it. Saturday morning go to Starbucks or the gas station “for coffee”. Look at the winning numbers from Friday night, and now buy a ticket with identical numbers for the following week.

Go home, open up the paper and start jumping up and down by the wife holding the winning ticket…..well next weeks ticket (except with last nights winning numbers! “Honey, you’re never going to f**** believe this, look at these numbers in the paper, now look at this ticket I got yesterday”. Let her think you guys won several millions for a few minutes………..

5. Buy her something - Buy her a brand new vacuum cleaner out of the blue. Tell her even though it was expensive, YOU make enough money and don’t feel like you’ve been providing her with all the tools she needs to fully contribute to the marriage.

6. That Time Of The Month - Shout one 1 of 3 things as soon as she complains about even the slightest little thing on Friday night; “When are you finally going to get your damn period!”, “When is your damn period finally going to be over!”, or the fan favorite “Fuck, I wish you would just get your period so I don’t have to listen to you bitch about everything!”

7. Be Safe - Even though you may have had a vasectomy, or your wife may be on the pill; Buy a box of condoms and leave a few empty wrappers in your pants pockets that she will inevitably be washing soon.

8. Weight Is A Touchy Subject - You can never go wrong with weight comments. Come home from work on Friday and give your wife a big romantic hug, maybe even grabbing her thighs or ass while doing this. Under your breath just say “wow, wow, wow”. When she says “What?”. Exclaim, “Oh nothing, I was just thinking maybe we should start trying to eat healthier around here.”

9. Show Your Appreciation - This has to be planned in advance. But earlier in the week ask her a bunch of questions such as “Do you prefer silver, gold, platinum?” Assure her you have a big surprise for her on Friday night. Leading up to this, keep making hints throughout the week. Then go buy her some new cooking utensils in her favorite color. You know what to do Friday night gentlemen.

10. Number 10, Obviously Sex - Friday night, tell her you are going to take a shower before bed. While she’s reading Good Housekeeping or watching Oprah in bed, do this. Get out of the shower and walk up to the bed buck naked. Most importantly, just stand there in dead silence until she says something along the lines of “What’s wrong with you?” Look at her and in all seriousness and say “Honey, it’s not going to suck itself”

Despite the tone of this Top 10 list, I can honestly say I have been married for over 8 years, and my wife and I have never had a serious fight. Well, that’s until she reads this of course. Have a Great Weekend!

Feel free to share your favorite way to “piss a spouse off” in the comments area below.

Okay, the last two blog posts have drained me. Thanks guys! After re-reading through some of the questions and answers, I wanted to post a little something about what being truly successful really means. I know a lot of what I posted involves working and making lots of money. And believe me, I love making money by the truck loads.

This is all fine and great, but at some point in my life it won’t matter if I have a billion dollars in the bank, or $5.

I read a post that I found on Digg today that really struck me and I felt the need to share. As poker affiliates and constantly being surrounded by huge dollar signs, we can sometimes forget what it really means to be successful. I encourage you all to give this a read.

I can’t think of a better legacy to leave behind someday than having someone read the list below and say, “Yep, that was Jeremy”

20 Qualities For A Successful Life

**Link Above = Digg Effect - Generating Backlinks, this is how it works.